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Journal NaveWeiss's Journal: Tactlessness 14

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I met a girl and she was ugly.
I don't remember exactly how I told her that, but she now knows that I believe her looks are outstanding, and not in a positive way (think of Roz from Monsters Inc).

Before, she was frustrated that nobody wanted to see her after sending her picture. She was sure the problem was in the picture. She was totally surprised to hear I that I believe she doesn't look good.

Now, is that good or bad? She asked me and I couldn't lie to her.. and I think that making her aware of the problem might help her solve things (by plastic surgery maybe.. it's so cruel). I feel so guilty. Now when I think of that... I doubt I did her any good by saying that. Bahh... I hope she won't be killing herself or something.

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  • This isn't inspired by my Chelsea comments [slashdot.org], is it? Because I feel like they almost directly apply.

    I'm not sure whether you should have told her that or not. It's pretty mean. People really don't want to hear the honest answer to their questions most of the time. But when you do answer honestly, the only person they can blame is themselves!

    I'm certainly not the most tactful person in the world, but when dealing in matters with the opposite sex, I have learned that it's *always* better to be gentle. The g
    • I haven't seen your Chelsea comment previously, although I read that journal entry.

      But when you do answer honestly, the only person they can blame is themselves!

      Yes yes! That's a good way of clearing my conscience. I felt I was doing her a service... showing her what's the problem in her.

      I tried being gentle with her, but for some reason I couldn't hide the truth for her.. at least she didn't cry on the phone.

  • I don't think you were wrong to tell her. You were more or less pushed into the situation. What were you going to do? Make up some crap, then when she tries to correct the "problem", make up some more? You'd just have her running around in circles.

    It would be mean if you went out of your way to tell her. Like if you saw her at the supermarket, then just walked up to her and said, "You are so ugly you make me want to puke." That would be mean, but telling her why no one wanted to see her...well sometimes

    • Thanks for the conscience-busting message. ;)

      Maybe she'll set her sights lower or something

      I doubt she did much filtering on the males she met, but maybe she'd do that. But what, I'd rather she gets a plastic surgery instead. Maybe it'll make her look good?

      • Since she's passing around her picture, why not pass it around Slashdot? That way we can tell if she needs plastic surgery, a bag over her head, or if we want to date her. We wants to date.

        I think if she took a picture of her naked boobs, magnified it, and placed it over her face, guys wouldn't care what her face looks like! ;-)

        (In a naughty mood tonight. Too much catnip I think. Anyway, I have too much karma, I need to kill some of it! Preferably in the most grotesque manner possible. Where is my flysw

        • I don't have her pic. She didn't send it to me before meeting me..

          I doubt you'll lose karma if you write here. If you want to lose karma in a journal, try writing there [slashdot.org]. I wrote two [slashdot.org] comments [slashdot.org] there, and they weren't even evil, but I was downmoded quite quickly.
          (I didn't get the flyswatter joke. Probably because I don't live in the USA).

          • Don't have her pic? Beg her for it. Maybe she won't kill herself. ;-)

            I doubt you'll lose karma if you write here.

            I meant karma in a more social sense, but you have so many fans, one of them must have mod points. ** evil grin **

            If you want to lose karma in a journal, try writing there. I wrote two comments there, and they weren't even evil, but I was downmoded quite quickly.

            Well, posting why you don't like them in their journal is the key to losing karma, even when defriending someone. Guess who rea

            • Here are her pictures [google.com].

              I actually knew what's flyswatter (I've got an old version of Babylon which doesn't ask you to pay), but I was too tired to connect it to the idea of killing karma. And regarding killing insects, I usually don't have to kill flies, but I've found that it's nicer to kill mosquitos by burning them using a lighter instead of squashing them. That way they don't leave a mark on the wall. Smart eh? ;)

              • Here are her pictures.

                Ha. See what I mean? Plastic surgery won't even work. ;-)

                And regarding killing insects, I usually don't have to kill flies,

                I use it to kill wasps, spiders, mosquitos, and moths. Because my roommates leave the windows without screens open, we have plenty of them. Not many flies here. ;-)

                it's nicer to kill mosquitos by burning them using a lighter

                Hhhmmmm....sounds like it works, just as long as you don't burn the house down! ;-)

  • It might have been better to side-step the answer, and suggest that people who are motivated by appearances are not exactly desirable in the first place. This leads to question of why she is sending her photos to people, who then reject her. Perhaps she is looking in the wrong place to meet people?

    There is an old saying about meeting a spouse. "There are two places to meet people: Bars and Church. The questions you have to ask yourself are 'Which type will make me happiest as my spouse?' 'Which type will

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