I don't think Android is missing anything. Android has a bigger marketshare than Apple, and they entered the game late.
Apple tried the 'vs' ads with their Mac vs Windows, and as popular as those ads were, they didn't help Apple much in sales. But the iPod, which did not have to compare themselves to Windows, which did not have to insult current Window users, but instead showed silhouettes of people enjoying their iPod, conquered the market.
The infrared emitter - i got one for my iPhone, and it sucks. When i upgraded to the Galaxy S2 last summer, i had planned to use my iPhone as a remote. But a touch remote sucks. You have to turn it on, unlock the screen and if the app is not running, run the app, all to flip channels? You can't use it with one hand (at least not reliably) or without looking at the screen. Without tactile feedback, it just doesn't work.
I don't really see the appeal of docks. I'd rather everything just connect through bluetooth or something and we get integration that way.