What you want to have happen is completely irrelevant. If you want it badly enough, make it happen.
That's right. it's an if/then statement.
The problem with your argument, and *ALL* arguments from Feminist SJW's is that there are unpleasant elements or barriers to entry for women that discourage them from participation, make them feel unwelcome or unwanted.
Well, tough crap. It happens to men too, all the time. No, not just sometimes. Everyone has to deal with things they don't like about their job, but most of us just suck it up and learn to deal with it, since we are generally assumed to be beyond high school.
You cannot change a culture if you're unwilling to participate in it in order to change it. If you expect any culture to change itself just because women want it to, that's not going to happen.
Roll your sleeves up and get to work.
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