I truly have no idea what point you are trying to make. Where do I say that "society" should be asked on proper spelling? What the hell has Ebonics got to do with it?
Different dialects of English pronounce words in different ways. Attempts to get a unified spelling based on pronunciation would be fruitless. This is why we have spelling as it is now; often archaic and often non-intuitive. But it's a standard that can be used by all to ensure accuracy and ease of reading.
If we decide, on the other hand, that certain words are exempt from that standard, then the first thing we need to do is determine which are the certain words. Then I'd be interested in what logic determined which words.
Otherwise we may as well give up on spelling and say you can spell all words however you like. Just don't complain if people can't follow you.