So now we get down to the meat here. Thanks so much for bringing it up. Issues of race, ethnicity, national origin, or gender are all real and provable human characteristics which are innate and immutable. I believe that homosexuality is a behavior that is learned and changeable, instead of inborn. If that were not true then I wouldn't be able to read stories of many people, people of no faith even, who have abandoned the lifestyle. Many celebrities who are homosexual have shared their sexual abuse stories when they were young and some have even left the lifestyle after realizing it was wrong. You asked why I feel differently about these, so there it is. But of course we won't be able to talk about this in a real cordial way because people in general here want to just flame and call names instead of actually discussing the issue.
Regardless of what I believe or you though, should a federal court get to decide that for all people for states? If they can make a ruling based on we believe or feel then what's to stop them from ruling on other issues that are based on feelings? That's what I agreed, in part at least, with what scalia said in his dissent. He talks about the majority ruling based on man's view (or the justices view) of the world instead of what is currently law.
Another issue that I take with this as another side reason is that regardless of what the womens movement tell us or what they would have us believe or how much some people would love for us to believe and accept that we are all just 'genderless' there are obvious falsehoods from those tenants. Something that is without a doubt best for children are a mom and a dad. All female and male innate and immutable traits necessary for child rearing cannot be copied or simulated from a two female or two males parents.
As hard as the 'male' or 'female' of the same sex couple wants to be or act like the other sex he or she will not be able to because some innate abilities they just don't possess. Thus, the consequences of child rearing from same sex couples become a problem for me. If you don't think this makes a difference look at all the statistics - from physical, physiological and mental health and including the heightened probabilities of drug use, suicide, school drop out rates, wedlock births and crime - if you just take the father out of the equation. If there is no father, whether the father is absent whether is in jail, just doesn't come around or whatever then these statistics show an alarming effect on children. Having two women trying to raise a child mimics correctly the absence of a father - thus "think of children" in this case really does apply I think.