And again, most people (not just nerds, and not just men) I have known who have problems of success in love put the blame on others, rather than assuming they themselves are fatally flawed.
But evidently, they're supposed to see themselves as unworthy of love, instead? Or does that only apply to men?
I'm sorry, but this is a pretty poor point to use for some sort of differentiation, much less condemnation.
I realize people are looking for answers and going after groups and alleged group attitudes is easier than facing the fact that the roots of this problem are actually pretty complex. But if the problem of violence against women is to be solved, it's going to take a little more work than this.