"It's now very common to hear people say 'I'm rather offended at that.' as if that gives them certain rights; it's actually nothing more .. it's simply a whine. It's no more than a whine. 'I find that offensive,' it has no meaning. It has no purpose, it has no reason to be respected as a phrase. 'I am offended by that,' well so f*cking what?" - Stephen Fry
I've never heard of her until this story. I don't follow Twitter, I don't follow a lot of the technical blogs because I'm happy to be subject matter specific after 20 years of doing what I do.
From reading the various comments and TFA I've come to the conclusion that the men were being a bit out of line by talking during a presentation and then engaging in a conversation as well. That's impolite to the speaker and to the attendees around them who were trying to listen. But that happens all the time at conferences.
What took it over the edge was her taking offense at comments that were pretty harmless in context. We don't know what the full range of the conversation was and she may well have encouraged them to speak freely thinking they were talking to a reasonable person. Yes, I said both 'reasonable' and 'person'. Gender is NOT an issue here. A man may well have been equally offended by the comments that got blown out of proportion.
Being a female in the tech industry for this long means I've seen a lot of sexism in the workplace. I've developed a pretty thick skin to minor work-inappropriate comments and jokes because they don't bother me since they're not directed AT me. If I do feel that things are getting close to crossing a line I'll either ask them to tone it down (not stop, mind you) or I'll leave the conversation depending on the circumstances. I'm not one of the boys nor do I ever wish to be. I'm a valued co-worker who happens to be of the female gender. I don't expect anyone to walk on eggshells around me but to maintain a professional attitude.
If I did find myself in a more serious situation my company has channels to follow for dealing with harassment and hostile work environments. I would have no problem using those resources and feel that I would be taken seriously. I won't use them to deal with petty annoyances or as retaliation. That kind of thing is what harms women - abuse of the process to do real harm to another employee.
Do I think she should have been fired? Based on what I've read I think her company did the correct thing if she was not doing her job of representing them to the community in the manner she was hired to do. If this had been a singular event then my opinion would probably be different.
Do I think one of the men involved should have been fired? No. He apologized for his behaviour and it seems like it was a real apology, not one made because he had to do it. If he had done the same thing she did - created an artificial furor over a minor transgression - then it may have been different.
He's a victim of one person's need to feel superior and need to try to shape public opinion to her match her own. I can't see how this kind of thing would discourage any female from wanting to enter the industry. If anything what she did would make me less apt to want to work in a highly female environment because of the possibility that more fanatics were just waiting to pounce on anything that made them 'feel uncomfortable'.