Many years ago I had a conversation with a lady in her mid 20's who had been the "victim" of incest by her father. This young woman was 9 years old when the "abuse" began, and it persisted up until she was 12 or 13.
At the time of our conversation, she'd only recently come to terms with the whole situation, after having spent probably 10 years receiving various forms of counselling and psychotherapy.
What she told me about her experiences was unexpected, until I really thought about it. She said that nothing was forced on her, and that the whole thing was a very loving and positive sexual experience, until she happened to let slip to one of her friends that it was going on.
The friend said something, the police were callled, her father arrested, and she was inundated by a veritable army of child advocates, social service people, counselors, school officials, police, etc..all *insisting* that something absolutely horrific had happened to her and that she needed all kinds of services to "recover from the trauma."
So imagine this, if you can.. You're a 12-13 year old girl.. you're enjoying (her words) an admittedly non-standard sexual relationship with your father.. everything is as fine as the life of a 12-13 year old can be.. and all of a sudden, one of your "friends" causes your father to be arrested, your family broken up, you dragged through "the system", confronted by dozens upon dozens of people all insisting that something horrible and evil has happened to you, and that you're all f**ked up, you just don't know it...
Your previously happy life has been turned on its head, your father, whom you love and respect, has been imprisoned and turned into some kind of of evil monster at the insistance of a bunch of "child welfare" advocates, your family life and the stability of your environment has been totally shot to hell during a time in your life where you're facing all sorts of uncertainty about your own identity, place in the world, etc, and you are painted to be the victim of this horrible evil man by everybody you come into contact with.
To sum it up, the young lady in question said that she was horribly traumatized by her incest experience and it took her 10 years to recover, because of the actions of *society* in relation to it, not because of the actual sexual conduct itself. To quote her..
"They made me feel like some kind of a freak, because they insisted that this thing I had experienced was so horrible and awful and evil, but I had enjoyed it."
Admittedly, I cannot assert that this is anywhere near a "standard" sort of view.. but it did make me pause and ask the question "Where is the real "abuse" happening here?" While I do not condone incest or the like, I certainly have to wonder about the wisdom of painting with as broad a brush as society does when it comes to sexuality.