Could those have been addressed? No idea. It was great when I reached university though and all that shit went away.
Bless your heart. So much of growing up (and parenting) is just random, it seems. It's good that you can see how things changed for you. Maybe you come to some understanding of what played into the change. You'd probably be a good parent.
Most of what I remember about my kid's early and middle school years was fierce love and hope. Fortunately, my wife seemed to have a pretty good grasp on the complicated stuff of young girls, but even then, I remember a lot of cluelessness on our part. It was mostly a matter of doing our best to be honest with her and honestly listening to what she had to say.
I'm honestly glad it worked out for you. And it seems to have worked out for us, too.