We don't want people to really know us because we have been convinced to hold ourselves to standards that no one actually meets.
You are confusing standards and ideals. There is a difference. Standards of behavior are met all the time. Sometimes you can actually find checklists of 'standard behavior'; things like etiquette guidelines and domain rules. It's also a sliding scale; your standard of behavior with your girlfriend is likely different than your standard of behavior with your boss.
Ideals of behavior are different; while people meet standards of behavior easily, no one really meets their ideals. This is a good thing and there's no shame in it. If we met our ideals the only direction we could go is downhill.
Of course our ideals are unrealistic; that's why they're ideals. If we realize that our ideals are unrealistic...we should still try to meet that ideal anyway.
Dear Mr. Elton Gallegly,
I, like many Americans, have been closely following the fluid events in Washington in the last few days.
I previously contacted you regarding my concern that, according to my research at the time, I had concluded that this bill was not only inadvisable but dangerous to America as a whole.
The most exciting phrase to hear in science, the one that heralds new discoveries, is not "Eureka!" (I found it!) but "That's funny ..." -- Isaac Asimov