And Vulcan just had a perfect first launch. Yes, it's very possible to do Rocket development on a "Must be Perfect" plan - but it also means you can't do much new and untested, and the simulations and small-scale tests you have to do first cost ridiculous amounts.
SpaceX has chosen a different path - a path whose #1 goal is creating CHEAP launch capability, not just launch capability. SpaceX has built and scrapped more boosters than they've launched as they work on the production process and making the boosters CHEAP. Their goal is to launch 6 times this year, which is a lot easier when the hardware is cheap than when it's expensive. As I write, they have three more ready/nearly ready to launch, and at least three more under construction.
Starship, on the other hand, has had a lot more iterations built and tested - it's more complex that the booster, and expected to do more. The last launch was Starship #28, most of the previous versions having been scrapped as the develop their manufacturing processes.
Heck, they've even scrapped ships #33, 34, 35 and started on 36 and 37, because they didn't believe they'd learn anything from 33-35.
SpaceX has gone into their testing phase with the expectation that things are going to fail, and explode. They feel that they'll make the fastest progress in a hardware-rich environment where they can launch early and often, learn from real launches and not just simulations, and use the launches as part of their manufacturing development. Perhaps they are wrong, perhaps building rockets one-at-a-time that can't be allowed to fail, is the fastest and most reliable way to build new rocket technologies. ULA, Blue Origin, Boeing and Arianespace are certainly taking this approach in the West, so there's no shortage of companies trying to make you happy. In a year or two, we'll see whose approach appears to be working best - ULA's Vulcan Centaur launched in Jan 2024, with six more flights scheduled for this year and seven in 2025; that's a ridiculous but also awe-inspiring schedule, and more power to them if they make it. Aerojet Rocketdyne and Boeing's SLS launched in 2022, with the next launch scheduled in 2025 - that's a ridiculous and awe-inspiring schedule also, but in a different sense. Ariane 6 is scheduled to fly this year.
So, I guess in summary there's plenty of launchers in process that follow the approach you seem to prefer. I'm excited about SpaceX because they're doing it differently - out in the open, with an experimental approach, and an end goal vastly different than anyone has successfully had in space travel. Maybe they'll fail; or maybe in 5 years I'll be planning my next vacation trip to Australia on a regularly scheduled Space Liner and getting there in 30 minutes rather than 14 hours. Or, maybe, I'll be watching watching a SpaceX vehicle landing on Mars and deploying a Tesla Cybertruck to pick up all those samples that the Perserverence rover carefully prepared that NASA can't afford to go retrieve - and collecting an extra ton of rocks to also bring back for study.