LordAlexander's Journal: The Concept of a Friend

I dunno if it's just me, but it appears to be far harder to find people interested in true friendship as I get older. I don't imply that people aren't _friendly_, or any such...actually, many more people are friendly to me now, than when I was young. But, the level of commitment that people are willing to put into a friendship seems to decline. For instance, I have a guy who still calls himself my best friend, who I have not seen in person for over a year. He managed to call me on the phone one time during that period. To me, that's not even basic friend level of commitment.

Maybe it's because most people are thinking of marriage at my age...maybe I'm just expecting more, and analyzing my "friends" more deeply. Maybe I just value friendship more than others do. Personally, I have 3 friends that live in different parts of the country from me, and I try to go to visit at least one per year, and usualy talk to each on the phone at least one time per month. That really doesn't seem to me to be too much to ask.

I've tried to befriend several coworkers, at several different places of employment. Most seem willing to talk about future get-togethers, and to plan group outings, and the like. However, the implementation of such things is decidedly more difficult.

My current take on things is that it must be me. Everyone that I mention this too seems to think that I'm nuts, and that this is the natural way of things.

Just don't seem right to me.

A lot of it has do to with location

[SiliconJesus]

You're down in the middle of nowhere. I too fall victim to this issue, as I'm a mere fourty-five minutes north of you. I've all but given up on the idea of people as more than aquaintences. I do all of my communicating via IM nowadays, I try to keep in contact with you but I'm always afraid I'm going to be interrupting you.

Hopefully with your upcoming change of employment, you'll be able to find better avenues for that, even thought you're going to be traveling much more.