bellus quies's Journal: On retreat this weekend

Well I'm not going to deal with it. At least not this weekend. I wrote a journal this morning because I couldn't sleep, and in my sleepy haze didn't push the post button. So I'll put that one up when I get home.

So this weekend I'm going on retreat. I'm going to a workshop up in the hills, getting a massage, staying at the spa, and taking the time to contemplate my navel without the distractions of daily life tearing at my focus.

I really don't want to deal with G this weekend, because with the combination of my boyfriend's, lets say, overly judgemental sister, it's just too much to deal with. She is 30ish, very single, very picky and complains about everything. Over the holidays while she was there with us I can't remember having a single conversation with her, and when everyone was coming out of the house to welcome us after our 1400 mile drive she didn't bother to get up, or say hi.

So I'm not going to deal with the drama, I'll leave those three in town to talk about what they always do, reminiscing about the past. And frankly as I didn't grow up with them it's really uncomfortable being so blatantly excluded from the conversation. Because no, it's not conversation in the intention of sharing a story with everyone, but reliving the moment with people who were there. Not that there's anything wrong with reminiscing, but I really don't feel included, and neither G nor the sister take any means to include me.

So I'll just take a pass on that one, and take off and reconsider if all this drama is worth it. Because sometimes it doesn't seem like it is. My boyfriend doesn't have this level of drama from my side, my family all adore him, all my friends get along with him. He even talks and IM's my sisters more often than I do (with the help of his sidekick phone)

Anyways, it's time for lunch and I don't want to think of depressing things anymore. I've already reached my cry quota form the day before the sun even came up.

Update: I just called my boyfriend and asked him why his sister didn't talk to me over the few days we were together at his parents house. The reason, "She doesn't like to talk to people she doesn't know". Super, that makes so much sense since she's the chatty one in the family and her phone calls with my boyfriend allways average over an hour and her own sister doesn't return her calls because she can't get her off the phone.

Have a great weekend!

[johndiii]

There are some great places in the hill country. The company that I worked for did a weekend at Barton Springs (IIRC) in 1994. Hopefully you will have some good thinking time.

I'm planning to be in Austin for South by Southwest in March, staying with my daughter. Would be be interested in a meetup? I'm planning to spend some time hanging out with dubiousdave. I met him a couple of years ago, when we were down there for parents weekend at UT. Anyway, if you're interested we could arrange something.

Re:Have a great weekend!

[bellus quies]

Maybe a meetup if I grow a backbone by then. Just to let you know that I'm a big chicken when it comes to meet ups. Like last year when I happened to be in Austin at the same time as TechnoLust...I e-mailed him and set things up, but at the last moment I chickened out and didn't call.

Re:Have a great weekend!

[johndiii]

:-) I was there that weekend, too, though only for a few hours. Couldn't pass up a chance to meet the legendary TechnoLust. ;-) FWIW, all of the people that I've met from Slashdot have turned out to be great people. dubiousdave, jeepliberty, SolemnDragon, rdewald, bluefairee, TechnoLust, NeeNee3, enforcer999, blinder, trmj, pezstar, Pancho Pistolas, daoine, and rk so far.

Anyway, it's up to you. I'll email you, so you have my main address.

Enjoy the You time

[Ra5pu7in]

A retreat sounds like a delightful break. Enjoy every moment of it.

Re:Enjoy the You time

[bellus quies]

Thanks. I'm really looking froward to it, and from what the weather channel tells me that it won't rain while I'm out and about.