IamBMETammy's Journal: My thoughts on the job change/ My baby daddy be leaving me

I am grateful to the company the husband is with now. Our lives changed dramatically for the better when he was hired and I don't think I'll ever forget the scene in the kitchen when he told me he'd gotten the job. He was very proud of himself, but of course it was one of those situations where he had super good news but acted all disappointed like he didn't until the end where he couldn't help himself anymore and exploded with the amazingness of the truth.

I don't know that the manager that hired him has any idea of how it impacted us. The difference between job hunting when you're already employed and experienced and just starting out is amazing. The husband always said all he needed was someone to give him a chance and that manager was the person to do that. I know to the company it probably didn't make a huge difference who ultimately ended up in that position but to us I can't even begin to wonder where our lives would be now without it. I know I wouldn't be back in college, that's for sure. But while I appreciate everything they have done for us, logically it is time to move on. Being an independent contractor is not an ideal situation for our family right now, especially where health insurance is concerned. Not only that, we lack the luxury of paid time off which means no opportunity to travel and it is coming up on four years since he's gotten a chance to go home (this is completely off topic but when we were watching the Chronicals of Narnia I felt bad for him because of all the snow in the movie and how long it's been since he's gotten to be somewhere like that). There are a lot of other reasons as well, that have to do with programming languages and general corporate attitudes towards updating those languages.

Anyway I am excited about this new job opportunity for him. Of course I am now over 36 weeks pregnant and he's actually due to start his new job the week I'm due, which is funny timing. It would work out really well if I could have the baby the week of March 27th, but not actually that day because I think I have an Organic exam, but since I'm against induction unless someone's life is at risk we'll have to see what timetable nature gives us. Hopefully I'll either give birth before he leaves or on a weekend, otherwise he could miss the birth. Which may or may not be a bad thing because let's face it--up until the end when the child actually comes out it's kind of gross and really messy. Actually even once the baby comes out it's still messy but you don't mind it so much because of the whole miracle of life thing.

So that's the one downside, but other than that we're good. My parents seem excited about me moving back in, but of course I think that's mostly because they're a little crazy about the grandchildren (when we found out we were expecting again my mom offered to raise Mercer if we thought having two children might be too much. It's weird, but it's also sweet.). I'm happy he's moving to Columbia because that's where I'd like to go to medical school and it's not really that far. Plus since the first 2.5 years of our relationship was extremely long distance I know we can handle it. I'm not too sure how Mercer is going to deal with it though, we'll have to see. The husband is a very involved father and brings a certain level of goofiness to the parenting mix that I lack. Luckily it'll only be for a month this time around and then we'll be moving down to Columbia for the summer.

Okay I gotta go, Mercer and I have to leave soon to meet the husband for hockey where we have to break the news to our friends (but at least we can tell them we aren't going to start cheering for Columbia or anything crazy!).

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Re:So tell us...

[IamBMETammy]

We met online. Twice actually. The first time I thought he was the most irritating person I'd ever met online. Three years later we met again and he'd changed his handled and ceased to be a 17 year old boy, and by the time I found out who he'd been I already liked who he was and it didn't matter.

But even the second time we met online we were still pretty young. I was in college the first time around and he had just graduated and was in limbo--not working, not in school. Neither one of us had any marketabl

Well, in that case

[Ethelred Unraed]

I guess we can share the nachos.

Cheers,

Ethelred