Comment Re:Article (Score 1) 156
Thanks for the links. I'm pretty convinced that I "have" Avoidant Personality Disorder, in the sense that I fit the diagnostic criteria; I'm just not convinced it's a useful fact. However, I found a book in the books section on avoidantpersonality.com (Distancing by Martin Kantor) that makes the case for treating AvPD as a gestalt instead of as a collection of loosely related pathologies. I'll have to read it and see if I'm convinced.
As for therapy, you should research the legal dangers and get a grasp on the facts before using them as a reason to avoid therapy. Therapists see a lot of really screwed up, truly dangerous people. If they bothered getting people like us (avoidant, over thirty, no history of suicide attempts or major violence) committed for evaluation, they'd have to do it for the majority of their clients. That wouldn't be good for business.
But, you know, you are avoidant, and I've even seen non-avoidant people make weird excuses to avoid therapy. A doctor friend of mine claims he is afraid his medical license could be suspended if he entered therapy (despite the fact that he has no issues with violence, drug abuse, or personal integrity) or that he might be subject to investigation by the state licensing board. That doesn't even pass the laugh test -- probably half the doctors in every major city are in therapy, and for psychiatrists doing psychotherapy it's kind of a "best practice" to be in therapy oneself. I explained that to him, yet he still finds it a compelling reason to avoid therapy. So you're not in bad company if you're a little irrational that regard