I'm one of the happily child-free, but I actually do fear the day when my siblings drop sprogs and what could happen to me when I hang out with said spawn. I can't claim any understanding of your situation, but I wish the best to you
That's part of the problem of having draconian laws coupled with a sensationalist media. Despite the fact that all crime is only a small fraction of what it was in the era when old-timers tell us that they didn't lock the doors, we have an entire populace that is afraid of everyone.
It's insane what can get people on the sex-offenders register, such as drunks pissing in the alley after last call, or a couple swimming nude in their own pool despite having a 9' privacy fence because some neighbour's crotch-fruit decides to have a peek. In the former case, the guy should get court-ordered alcohol education at the very worst, and in the latter, the brats should be prosecuted for trespass. In fact, a good friend of mine could be labeled a "sex-offender" under California statutes (which have no "Romeo and Juliet" provisions) for sleeping with her then-boyfriend,, and now husband of almost 15 years during the two weeks between her 18th birthday and his.
Perhaps my aversion to having kids myself stems from not wanting to bring a child into a world where I see things as only going from bad to worse