Because they're right. Lying is a requirement for being socially functional. As an example, it's a common situation for most people who are insecure about some thing (say, the way they look) to ask someone they know for their opinion... if you tell them the truth, you are by definition being socially dysfunctional.
It's been said that I also have poor communication skills. In actuality I don't remember anybody asking me for an opinion, much less on how they look. If I were asked I would tell them the truth. If the truth were to be negative I would be as tactful as possible. With me telling somebody they were ugly and explaining to them how they can make themselves appear better looking, or explaining how people who judge people by looks are stupid and shallow is far better than telling an ugly person that they are beautiful.
I know one person who said that everybody looks down and gossips about a person at work who has body odor. I asked if anybody told him the truth about his body odor and he said no. Apparently nobody wants to be offensive, but instead would rather socialize with each other and gossip. I am not intellectually capable of understanding how dishonesty is good. You are wasting your time trying to explain it too me.
There's nothing wrong with being insecure about something, and so someone who is insensitive to that insecurity and seems to blame other people for being insensitive should seek professional help. Seriously - you need it.
Yeah, I've heard it before. Almost everybody says I'm crazy. Although I don't see how seeking "professional help" will turn me into a liar. It seems to be more of a personality trait than something you can easily be conditioned to learn. I've got quite a lot of social science education and I'm very familiar with the biology of how the brain works; I've yet to see any type of psychiatric drug that can make people lie and steal and cheat like normal people do.
Show me people who honestly think that there's nothing wrong with someone abusing his position.
I'm only aware of me, and some hypocrites. It's obvious that I'm the social deviant here.
That's most probably because you're socially dysfunctional. If you were socially functional, you would be able to get good references. Most people value integrity very highly, however you're unable to see the difference between integrity and your own social dysfunction.
Yes I already know I am socially disfunctional. People have told me before that I should lie on my resume and use "friends" as phony references like everybody else, but I can't bring myself to do it.
I don't cheat or steal (just like you), and yet I have never left a job where I was unable to get a reference.
I spend all my time trying to work when I am at work. I never have time to socialize with people. Of course, asking a Manager (who terminates me) for a reference doesn't make a lot of sense to me. I don't generally tend to quit jobs. In reality, I generally don't get jobs that require more than one (short) interview. I almost never make it to the qualification tests (of the interview process). One recruiter said she will have me do the test at home (over the Internet), when I got home I phoned her and told her that I never received the login information. She told me she will email it to me. I phoned again and again she said she will email it to me. I went back to the company and said I will do the test on their computers. They said it's better if I did it at home, so I went home and waited for the email. I'm still waiting. This is how most of my interviews go. When they ask me why I've been out of work so long I tell them it is because I was unable to find a job. People say I should lie about this, but I can't bring myself to be dishonest. Pretty much all of my interviews go like this. If I could figure out what I'm doing wrong (without having to lie) it would be helpful. Unfortunately the most lucid comment I received from an HR person was "We'll keep in touch". I've never heard from her since.
One employer (the HR person) said that I was "laid off" because of poor job performance, but he refused to give me details. I do remember on the last week of work a quality control person told me that I was working too fast and that I should slow down so that I wouldn't have to put things on the floor. I told the senior employee who trained me on the equipment and who was working with me that we had to follow the company rules and not create safety hazards. The person started telling me that if I'm tired I should go work on another machine. He was smiling and said it's OK if you can't handle the work. I said I'm not tired. He unexpectedly left for half an hour and then came back. He was smiling more than usual and very accommodating. The next day I was "laid off" because of poor performance reviews. I don't have the social intelligence to know what I did wrong. Too bad the HR department refused to tell me, because maybe that information could have helped me become less socially dysfunctional. In fact most of the jobs that I was terminated from I am not even aware as to what I did wrong or how I could have made things better (aside from lying, or involving myself in other socialization techniques that I find too morally reprehensible to involve myself in).
...and the reason is because people value my honesty.
Your being inconsistent in your messages. First you say honesty is for the socially dysfunctional, and now you say "people value my honesty". I'm starting to doubt how honest you actually are, especially considering the fact that you appear to be successful in the job market. On the other hand, I think what you mean to say is that people value your ability to make yourself and the company look good, which has nothing to do with honesty (but obviously I don't really know, just sayin'...).
Anecdotes aside, it's most likely that they didn't like you before you refused to disobey them, rather than because of it. If you're as socially dysfunctional as you claim, you probably offended them long before that.
You're confabulating here. I never disobeyed anybody. Sometimes I even go along with breaking some rules if it doesn't seem too immoral and if it makes getting along with people seem easier (like in the above example, I was breaking the rules until QC warned me not to). Same as in the call centre, I always obeyed the rules and that's why my "metrics" were so poor. When I asked people how they get such good metrics they said it was because they don't do what they were trained to do, but instead lie and cheat. They were never told to lie by the Management, but they were rewarded for lying by getting promotions and pay raises and other rewards. When I asked Management about this I was told that my perceptions were incorrect. In fact various supervisors from the company said I had poor English and communication skills. Perhaps my poor communication skills and dysfunctional social skills lead me to develop false beliefs. But at least I didn't urinate on the lavatory floor like some people did, or steel people's lunch from the fridge, or steal a computer from one of the desks, or steal the chairs in the lobby. I'm not sure who did the steeling or urinating, but I can presume they became very successful in the company, perhaps getting into executive positions. That's another job that I was terminated from. Unfortunately I don't have any good references their either, because of my poor socialization skills.
Co-operating with people around you is not the same as being "dishonest". The fact that you see them both as the same thing speaks volumes about your level of dysfunction.
Clue for you: most people are as honest. If you believe others are dishonest, then the problem is with you, not with them.
You seem to of the dishonest type, because you are claiming that I don't co-operate with people even though I never said that I don't. I have always gone out of my way to help other people in the company. If I notice somebody is doing something incorrectly I always offer to teach them to do things better. If they don't want my help then I don't force it upon them. Also, if people ask for help then I always try to accommodate. Sometimes it's difficult for me though when different people tell me contradictory things to do. For example some people tell me to work fast and some tell me to work slow, and usually at least one person gets offended when I have to choose who to believe. The shit starts rolling down hill from there.
Clue for you: most people are as honest. If you believe others are dishonest, then the problem is with you, not with them.
Again you're contradicting yourself. Most people who say things like "clue for you" tend to be people who are not yet Managers, but will be in the next few months. I wish you (a presumptuous) congratulations on your future promotion. Actually, by saying that most people are honest you are not only showing your ignorance but your dishonesty as well. Even a moderately intelligent person without a social science background will intuitively know that most people lie on a consistent basis. The fact that you are contradicting your earlier statement does not help your cause (unless you are just being a Troll).
No, actually. People like you have the wrong psychological make-up to succeed, because you're unable to see that you're emotionally stunted.
Do yourself a favour and get some psychological counselling. You're not doing yourself (or anyone else) any favours by trying to convince yourself that you're OK and everyone else is dysfunctional.
The science says that people who become executives tend to have psychopathic personalities. It seems like you are just going out of your way to demonize me (because of my observations) and rationalize your own lifestyle. It's sad but true, being dishonest is socially functional. The fact that you are playing games with me here indicates that you are probably successful in playing games in the corporate world as well.