I don't mind that you used my post :)
I took quite a while to find a church in my area that I fit well into. It's tough, because I have certain 'faults and failures' that I find myself going back to that I don't really want to do, but yet get discouraged when I see this in others. What I like about the Church my wife and I are at, is that the majority of everyone there, including the pastor, is very open about this process. (ie - there is a Men's group that meets that is all about pornography addiction, and they work as an accountability group for each other - this is because a lot of these men have found it hard to get away from viewing that material online, and are finding it is hard on their marriage because their wives feel that they aren't enough for thier husband). I like that this church is open about things like that - and not just saying "Porn is bad - don't look at it." and move on like it's all that needs to be said about it. What I realized when looking for a congregation to join, is that it is a lot like my marriage, but with a lot more people - you are trying to mesh multiple lives together to form a "family" of people that share the same beliefs and convictions, but everyone's is just a little different, or they have more or less emotional baggage than you.