Re: #1
What has logging in over SSL got to do with anything?
If a third-party is storing credentials that control everything, then you are screwed if that third-party is compromised. Twitter suffered greatly from these kinds of problems prior to adopting OAuth. The trick with OAuth is that the third-party never sees the primary credentials, just an application-specific set of credentials with very specific access rights. Because of the design of OAuth, it's also easy to revoke credentials on an app-by-app basis and thus not impact the other apps interacting with the OAuth system.
Re: #2
Tesla is blameworthy because they opted for a less secure approach than is commonly accepted practice. If a third-party is compromised in an OAuth environment, only that one token with the application's specific access rights are at risk. You can revoke them and re-issue without impacting anything else using those credentials.
Finally, there's no need for any panic at all. TFA is not pushing panic. It's pushing the facts of an architectural flaw that does not arise to the level of being an active vulnerability. A flaw that exists for no good reason at all.