Comment Re:Thoughts. (Score 1) 527
Also be careful not to overdo this video recording. As other posters suggested, I would try to make the most of the time you have left together in terms of being together. Travelling is an obvioius thing if you like it and can afford it, but it can also be smaller things that matter to you. Then occationally you can take a picture or recording of that, just like you did prior to this happening to you. Don't take this wrong, I think you should take some photos and do some records, it's just that it seems you are so focused on it that you will always think you didn't do enough. So just set your expectation to something realistic. And ask yourself if you will/should watch hours and hours of footage of her after she is gone and if that is something you would wish your loved ones would do if you passed away?
I can't help thinking if all this recording won't disturb the natural grieving processes of the brain. Maybe it is better to remember things the way the brain wants to remember them. Some memories will fade away and there will be things where you ask yourself "Why can't I remember this?" or "Why didn't I ask this?". But this is just part of the healing process. Initially after a traumatic experience, you are thinking about it all the time, say at least every second. The healing process consists of a continuous extension of this interval between being reminded of the trauma. So after a 1 week maybe you can go a minute without being reminded of it. After 1 month, maybe you can go half an our without being reminded of it. Part of this process, I suspect, involves deletion/blurring of memories - pushing them very farther and farther back in the 'database' and untying them from their relationship to everyday objects and experiences, so that you are not reminded of it all the time. As harsh and as it may sound, you will have to move on and focus on the people around you both for your own and other people's sake. I can't help but thinking if constant, digital reminders can interfere with this process.