Has it occured to anyone that what gets pushed by the modern society is a fast-paced acceleration of sexual behaviour and priorities? Once you arent minor, suddently what you face is way more than pure sex. You have to suheddently select not only the possibility to have sex, but you are literally forced to make known your preferences. Its not enough nowadays to have sex. That isnt interesting any longer, it's not the meaning or the purpose.
You have to choose a fetish. Just looking at the ol