Well, now that's a letdown. If a geek can't dream of getting laid with an alien babe, then what's the point of it all? ;)
Well, now seriously, I have some idea of my own on the topic. Whatever we meet, true, won't even vaguely resemble HOMO SAPIENS. On the other hand, if you think about how evolutionary pressures worked on Earth, it's not unreasonable to expect some Earth-style body plan.
For a start I'm going to assume that life is going to evolve from individual mollecules that self-replicate and get increasingly more complex. This kinda means a primal pond for those chemical reactions to thrive. This kinda rules out the most exotic scenarios like gas bags floating in gas giants. Ephemereal water droplets just won't last enough for that kind of evolution.
Second, I'm only interested in sentients. While life can also just mean some weird rock-eating bacteria, it's not going to be the kind you make contact with. That kind of thing just gets written under local flora at best, not alien contact.
Then you have constraints like that probably the simplest complex and mobile shape that can pump that pond through and extract nutrients is some kind of tube. It evolved so many times on Earth that there must be some merit to it. So you'll pretty much have critters based on a body plan that takes in food at one end, and dumps waste out the other end.
Or that if that kind of life form has SOME equivalent to DNA -- doesn't mean actual DNA, just SOME way to encode how to make more copies of itself --- you'll probably get SOME symmetry, because it saves on complexity there.
Then if you think of it, it makes sense to have the sensor organs to the front of that tube. It makes more sense to see or smell what you're about to swallow than what just passed you by. Critters with the sensor organs up front will have a strong evolutionary advantage in just about any imaginable setup.
At that point, you have to worry about reaction times, Whatever means of processing information it will have, whether it will be like our neurons or not, it will have finite speed and bandwidth. The main sensor organs, like eyes (or equivalent) need massive bandwidth and quick processing (our eyes even have basic image processing built right into the retina), so you'll want that trunk kept short. So that gives you a "brain" or equivalent quite close to the front of that tube, i.e., it gives you a head.
It will be a generic purpose "brain". Hard-wired reflexes that have to be pre-wired for your exact limb lengths and whatnot, are actually a major handicap, so no complex animal does that. Most brains just learn to use whatever body they got, to the point where animals can in actual studies learn to use eyes that detect a fourth colour, or a CCD camera sensor instead of a retina, or a culture of rat neurons can learn to use a truck with wheels instead of a rat body. In the end it's a problem of survivable complexity. You are much more adaptable evolving if mutations to body shape don't have to happen at the same time as mutations to a brain that is already fine-tuned to that body, to be survivable. Mutations to the body have to be able to just happen by themselves, and the brain must be able to learn to use that body.
Plus, if it were hard-wired, the reflexes that helped avoid predators as a dumb animal, won't help it be able to do maths or operate a spaceship. Any alien that can really operate new tools and think abstractly, will have a general-purpose enough brain to do that.
A complex enough head, gives you a long childhood. Whether you believe that that species give birth to live offspring, or lays eggs, or whatever, there's only so big a head you can get out of the mother or that you can grow out of the limited nutrients in an egg, or whatever. You'll continue building processing units for a long time afterwards, and a complex enough brain needs some time to figure out a complex world model. (See the Piaget childhood development theories, for how long it takes for a human brain to finally "grow up" and have an adult world model and processing capabilities.)
Then there's a matter of limbs. The simplest body plans use the most of them, up to schemes where each cell has its own flagellum that contributes to the whole, and a decentralized control scheme. E.g., insects have one bundle of nerves independently controlling each leg or wing, with the CNS just giving it loose signals like "start the walk forward sequence for that leg."
But as you get more complex, it starts being an obvious advantage to go centralized, again, partly because of an advantage to have short paths. The most efficient brain layout seems to be basically a lot of processing columns, around a high-speed, massive-bandwidth central hub. Your brain is like that, for example. You can probably see the evolution pressure in that. From a data processing point of view, you can surely see the advantage in that. If you don't have infinite speed or bandwidth, and reacting a millisecond faster than the prey or predator counts, then that layout gives you the best bang per buck.
And at that point, once you have short reaction times and complex processing for each limb, it seems you need less limbs. In fact, 4 seems to be the all around sweet spot, once you have enough coordination for each.
Once you have 4, symmetry, a head, and some limbs used for manipulation (a main factor in developping intelligence), that already gives you a humanoid bipedal body plan. In fact, bipedalism to leave the fore limbs free for grasping things, evolved several times independently on Earth, so obviously it works. There is no reason to assume that some exotic, less efficient configuration would be preferred by natural selection on another planet.
It will probably give birth to live babies. Again, this is a thing that not only evolved on Earth, but is evolving independently again right as we speak. E.g., some lizards are evolving it right now. Again, it has an obvious advantage, and doubly so for an animal which will need a long time to become self-sufficient.
It will have evolved in conditions that make it actually extremely vulnerable. You don't develop complex behaviours and use of tools, when your natural defenses don't need that. A big and complex "brain" of whatever imaginable kind will push the envelope for energy use and nutrient use and whatnot, so by itself complexity is a disadvantage. It has to give a big enough advantage just to compensate for that. The animal has to actually have a concrete advantage from being smarter, not just be an eternal rock with a big brain vs an eternal rock with less brain.
Once a big enough brain is in place, all sorts of natural weapons and defenses become obsolete and a waste of energy. It becomes more advantageous to throw a spear well or figure out some cunning way to build a trap, than to have a big jaw and claws. So such traits like big jaws, claws, or even extreme sexual dimorphism will be selected out. (Sexual dimorphism for steadily decreased in the evolution of Homo Sapiens, unsurprisingly.)
Etc, etc, etc.
Once you take all such factors into consideration, I do believe that it's not unreasonable to expect a humanoid-type body plan. Will it be something one would actually find sexy and want to fuck? Probably not, for most people. It will probably look even more different than a chimp. A LOT more different even. But it will still be some kind of humanoid.