I live a little closer than you to my work. And it is a tad more expensive than if I wanted to live, say 40 miles away. But it is worth it for me.
I'm a 5-15 minute drive from 95% of the things I want and/or need. It's ridiculous how much more affordable housing is, away from the city. Houses like mine, on as much land as I have go for over a million dollars in the city. I'd never be able to afford one.
It's when people want Silicon Valley pay and Detroit slum housing costs that they might check their priorities.
If I was 22, childless, newly graduated from college and making the kind of money that I make now, I would almost certainly have different priorities but as things stand, I like where I am.
I don't do it often, maybe 2-3 times per year but sometimes, I just want to drink some bourbon and listen to loud music. If I was closer to my neighbors, it would make me an asshole to do it.