She was Canadian. We had a marriage contract, executed in Quebec, CA. Unlike WA, "prenuptual agreements" have no weight there: marriage contracts are notarized, and can cover performance (who does what household duties) as well as assets. It required whoever does not work outside the home to maintain the home, raise the kids, etc. If both worked outside the home, we were to support the household in proportion to our incomes. Standard fare.
Well, she didn't. I remained faithful, but withheld certain "perqs" of marriage.
When she cheated, I figured I had the moral right to divorce her lazy ass. What I didn't realize was that, under WA law, her cheating gave her the right to have me thrown out of my own home, lest I be arrested, on the grounds that she was fearful that I might find out and get violent. So that I might support our kids, I left freely. Of course, that was construed as my abandoning our kids, so I had no chance at custody in the divorce. I regained it after she was found neglectful of them.
That marriage contract? Because it wasn't a prenup, it held no legal weight, precisely the reason we got a marriage contract instead of a prenup in the first place!
After the divorce, she was held in contempt for not selling the house she could not pay the mortgage on (for which I remained responsible, but with her having to make the payments, and I having a power of sale that I ended up exercising). When she lost custody, she alleged I never paid child suport for our son (I threw in an extra $100 a month for an allowance). The state hassled me for the money EVEN AFTER I provided canceled checks with her endorsement on them! I had to hire a lawyer to get them off my back.
But, the problem here isn't what she did as much as the laws that let her get away with it. And, for my part, I was stupid for having married her in the first place.
Then again, in the end, the kids were placed with me, with sole legal custody as well.