It is the author of this silly article who cannot tell the difference between (threats of) rape and offensive statements...
I feel like I'm missing something important going on right now, because it has seemed to me that this sort of confusion is becoming more and more prevalent, and I'm not sure what the cause is. I've seen lots of posts on sites like Facebook, and many posts in my Facebook feeds, that seem to conflate "things that women aren't happy about," with "systematic political oppression of women," and "physical violence and rape."
I got into a brief Facebook discussion with a friend who was complaining about the whole "not all men" thing. If you haven't heard about this, a little while back there was a bunch of complaints that when women discussed the problematic things that men did, some men would say "not all men do that," and the complaint was that these men were 'derailing the conversation." For example, you would see a discussion about how men won't tolerate women in a position of power, to which some unfortunate man would say, "Well some men will. I would." and he would get yelled at for derailing the conversation.
So this whole concept was brought up, and I thought, "Ok, I can understand why am man would want to interject that, but I can also understand some of the frustration being expressed, since these women know that 'not all men' do terrible things, because they're talking about trends, and not every individual case. Interjecting with an individual case seems to minimize the complaint, so that interjection is not welcome. I can understand that." But then the conversation went on.
One friend went on to say, "No, we're not just talking about trends. We're talking about what normally happens. Men won't hire women. Men won't pay women the same respect that they'll pay to another man. Men engage in violence towards women, and men rape women." At that point, I felt a bit ambushed. I'd just been warned that I wasn't allowed to point out that "not all men" do these terrible things, but shortly afterwards I was told that the "normal thing" was for men to rape women. It seemed pretty important to note that no, not all men rape women. It's not even the "normal thing" or really a trend. To my understanding, a large percentage of rapists are men, but that's not the same as saying a large percentage of men are rapists.
But these activists are unwilling to make that kind of distinction. In subsequent conversations that I've had, I've been told, for example, that men shouldn't "hit on women" because it was aggressive and made women uncomfortable, which supposedly makes it a form of rape. That's right, any behavior that made women feel uncomfortable was a form of rape. So I asked for clarification on what constituted "hitting on women", since obviously it can't be rape to approach a woman, pay attention to her, or attempt to talk to her. I was told that the distinction was whether the attention was "welcome". If a woman doesn't welcome the attention, then the activity is essentially the same as rape.
Now, I don't want to set up a straw man argument here. I'm not saying that women don't have valid concerns. They do. There are many unfortunate things that happen to women, and I'd welcome a discussion of how to resolve those things. However, reasonable distinctions need to be made. Not everything can be "rape" and "oppression". The fact that I might unintentionally benefit from being a man, e.g. getting paid more than a female coworker, does not make me an active oppressor of women, does not make me a perpetrator of violence, and it does not make me a rapist. Until I feel like I can get some agreement on that, at least from people that I know personally in IRL, I feel like these kinds of conversations are hopelessly muddled and we can't do anything to address any problems.