Comment Look at Netflow based tools such as nfsen (Score 1) 338
There's a large number of tools available for collecting, analyzing and otherwise dissecting collected Netflow data, with a good number most likely available via your favorite free Unix-like operating system's packages collection. My favorite combo is to set up an OpenBSD box as the gateway, have it export traffic data via the pflow(4) facility and do the collection and analysis bits somewhere via nfdump/nfsen (see eg nfsen.sourceforge.net for info).
There are various resources available within direct reach of web search, but I would also recommend taking a look at Michael W. Lucas' book Network Flow Analysis for a nice treatment of Netflow in general (it uses flow-tools, but most of what he writes will be useful in the context of other tools too).