I feel your pain. The workload is a major stress for her and for our relationship.

Not having this tool, managers will just reward the programmers who complain the most.

My wife is an excellent teacher who left a prestigious private school for gifted kids and went to a school in a very low socioeconomic area. Why? She said the kids at the gifted school "Just got it" and there was no challenge for her, professionally. Now the students can't spell their names the first day, but thanks to the hard work of a lot of very good teachers, they are average when they leave. Sure, test scores are lower than at the gifted school, but the kids have made a lot more progress.

Oh, her #1 advice to parents of her students: READ TO YOUR KIDS EVERY DAY!

Here you go.

You can filter based on kids and marital status. And, yeah, you'll lose more than 1/2 the field if you want a single woman with no children. I LOL at the Craigslist w4m ads that are like a shopping list for perfection, and then end with "MUST HAVE YOUR OWN CAR!". That tells you what kind of reply they want vs. what kind they're used to getting.

eHarmony is nice because you don't enter the typical personal ad garbage into a textbox and post it.

The early sex isn't really the problem, but it's usually accompanied by multiple partners. If there's one thing I could tell my 16 year old self (other than to buy Apple stock), it would be that the girls who are easy are doing it to feel desired because they feel terrible about themselves. I say this after chasing one of them all the way into my mid 30's and having a failed engagement.

I agree on the bars. How are you supposed to talk to someone over 130dB Hip-Hop music?

Okay, you gamed the system and got more hits with your fake profile. Did you meet better matches that way? Quantity != quality. If you answer honestly and get 1 match, it's going to be better than faking and getting 1000 matches that aren't going to work out. And you're wasting your match's time too.

There are options for location, one where you are ONLY interested in matches locally, one where you could be matched with someone long distance if they are willing to travel, and one where anything goes.

So go back, read the instructions, and play by the rules. It works.

Since it's too loud to talk in a bar or club, appearance is the only thing you have to go by.

Direct observation: Having sex early is a sign of low self esteem. I wish I knew that before spending 15 years in horrible relationships.

If I looked at 10 profiles sent to me by Match/Yahoo/Whatever, one or two seemed like someone I'd actually enjoy talking to. That's probably about average out in the real world. If I looked at 10 profiles on eHarmony, 7 or 8 seemed like someone I'd actually enjoy talking to. So their survey does a pretty good job of increasing the odds.

1. eHarmony is more than 50% female. A lot more, from my observation. (I married one of my eHarmony matches!)

2. It changes a lot when you're over 30. Women realize there's no such thing as Prince Charming and it's time to settle for someone who treats them well and isn't going to leave.

3. It depends a lot on where you live. I lived in a small farming town for a while and most of the young women moved to the larger cities to pursue careers and never came back. Most of the men stayed. The ratio was awful.

A programmer can code a memory leak in Java (or Dalvik or .NET) just like any other language.

The debt will be inflated away. That's the whole point. Today's spending is being paid for by inflating away people's savings and buying power. They can't get away with raising taxes, but what they are doing is worse.

The national debt is meaningless, but a paycheck doesn't seem go as far as it used to, huh?

I'd want a jury that didn't hate being there. The experience sounds unpleasant enough already that I would never sit on a jury. Judges already think they're royalty. Who the F do they think they are to tell me what I can or can't do outside their courtroom?

Great! That leaves a 1 and 2/3 space next to it so I can park my HUMMER.


Seriously, though, it sucks that all spaces cost the same where I work, whether it's for a motorcycle or a SUV.