Comment Tell stories instead of advices (Score 1) 698
Advices are tricky, people are different.
My dad died as I was about to leave college and the best thing he left me with are his stories and not advices - all sorts of stories. He was a tech guy, I'm a tech guy but we're different. What 'the kid' wants are stories, stuff that will give you the feeling like you were sitting together to have a coffee/beer and sharing stories. Way better than telling your daughter *what to do*, tell her *what you did*.
Tell her how you got your job, what was the hardest thing for you before college, during.. how was the first time you got wasted. How did you get the first job.. about that time you changed jobs.. or got promoted or got laid off.. Tell her about how you felt when you were getting married, when she was born.. Tell her a story about how/when your heart was broken.. (I'm going a bit random here but you get the idea)
Tell her of dreams you had but that you never accomplished. Tell her your opinions about a bunch of things that might or might not apply to her in the future; moving countries, sports vs. work, being homosexual.. dunno.. think about a bunch of stuff..
Oh, and tell her a bunch of your favorite books/albums/films and why they are so.
If you give plaintext advice she'll just argue something back to the video and you won't be there to counter-argue so it's a bit of a dead conversation. Tell your stories and she'll take them in as they are.
My dad died as I was about to leave college and the best thing he left me with are his stories and not advices - all sorts of stories. He was a tech guy, I'm a tech guy but we're different. What 'the kid' wants are stories, stuff that will give you the feeling like you were sitting together to have a coffee/beer and sharing stories. Way better than telling your daughter *what to do*, tell her *what you did*.
Tell her how you got your job, what was the hardest thing for you before college, during.. how was the first time you got wasted. How did you get the first job.. about that time you changed jobs.. or got promoted or got laid off.. Tell her about how you felt when you were getting married, when she was born.. Tell her a story about how/when your heart was broken.. (I'm going a bit random here but you get the idea)
Tell her of dreams you had but that you never accomplished. Tell her your opinions about a bunch of things that might or might not apply to her in the future; moving countries, sports vs. work, being homosexual.. dunno.. think about a bunch of stuff..
Oh, and tell her a bunch of your favorite books/albums/films and why they are so.
If you give plaintext advice she'll just argue something back to the video and you won't be there to counter-argue so it's a bit of a dead conversation. Tell your stories and she'll take them in as they are.