Is there room in your brain for the possibility that you're just sheltered?
I tried asking a woman for consent once. She was in my bed, and I said "Tell me you want it."
"Tell me you want it."
"Tell me you don't want it."
"Tell me something."
I got fed up, rolled over and went to sleep.
Next day, her girlfriend is explaining how she wanted me so bad, that's why she was there, but she couldn't say the words, because she wanted to remain a good girl. She wanted me to be the bad guy so she could have what she wanted while remaining the good girl.
That's our job as men. To take the risks, be the domineering, "bad" guy. No matter how many laws are passed that could put us in jail for trying, no matter how dangerous they make it, no matter how much they criminalize healthy, natural interactions between men and women, it's still our job.
Ever heard the stereotypical "I don't want to tell you what to do, I just want you to do it." line women like to say?
That's them telling you, in plain english, that they value their submissive role more than they value having all the other things they want.
That's human nature.
The women who are making all the noise don't speak for women. They're freakish outliers, not representatives of their gender. Most of their gender simply doesn't wish to speak up at all.
Pandering to them does not mean you're "respecting women".
Might I suggest you conduct an experiment to confirm or refute? Go visit a small town where you won't feel concerned about embarressing yourself and having to see them at the grocery store, and experiment with behaving as though you were a man.