I completely agree with the girl who agrees with the guy who doesn't seem to agree with the other guy who disagrees with the original guy.
Once I started being more assertive and a little more of a jerk (ie loosening up and just having fun, actually) women started talking to me more. Of ocourse, I also started talking to THEM more too, which helps.
Lesson: I think many people take things too seriously (though for some that's their best asset), and ladies want to laugh too! Guys, women want someone with some backbone who is comfortable with himself (whatever that is!), who will make them feel secure (whatever that is for them), and man up to get things done (even if it's coding).
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