Well, i was driving this morning, and noticed something. Something i noticed many times that bothers me. Yet, i am guilty of some of this myself, but i am trying to fix it. The worst part is though, as i am trying to fix it, it bothers me even more when others do it.
When driving, the speed limits limit the upper speed. Yet, if i am not going _at least_ that speed, someone else is bound to tailgate me. However, when the very same driver comes to a red light, he leaves half a car-length or more between himself and me, yet on continuance, will once again tailgate! What's the deal with that?
My guess is that it has to do with an overly logical society. Well, logical when it helps. The opposite of logic, according to Jung, is feeling. Feeling requires that we understand others, and place their values in high regard similar to out own. Yet, such things end up demanding responsibility and sacrifice, things which hedonistic, immature societies such as the US are against. Thus, in many interpersonal relationships we go logical. Logic meaning, "I am me, you are you", and that the separation must be pronounced, and kept all costs.
So, when coming to a red light, i only stare at another car when the other driver won't notice. Distance is kept to force that separation. But as soon as they are moving again, and the car in front is in my way, he'd better have a logical reason for his speed, or else face the logical consequence of my tailgate.
This then extends to the hypocrisy of the straight-or-turn lane, when a turn can be made on red. If *anyone* gets in front of me when i want to turn, and yet doesn't turn, he's an absolute idiot for holding me up. Yet, if i get into the lane first, um
Lately, another aspect has been pronounced. As my pickup is deteriorating, even though i am willing to speed, the car behind me must wait an arduous ten of fifteen seconds or so as i hit the driving speed. The car behind me is almost always tailgating at this point, or the driver is throwing his arms up in an effort to have me validate his fake overly-theatrical desperatrion.
Though, i've started the response to tailgaters. Slow down slowly, and then speed up when they switch lanes. That usually sends the messages. Though, i doubt the morons ever receive it.
Bah! Offensive or defensive, driving tests my ability to cope with myself and others.