So, just because *you* don't have time for this in your life, anyone else must be criticized/condemned because they do? Buddy, you're the one who either decided to have a wife and kids, or you let the little woman browbeat you into your present situation. Your attitude and that of anyone who agrees with you just sounds like sour grapes.
I'm 43 too; I get up at 5AM, out the door at 5:30, at work by 7, out the door at 3PM, home by 4:30, pretty much the same sort of evening chores, so you're neither the first person nor the last to have a busy schedule.
On a kinder note, let me assure you that your current schedule will get easier. I have 4 girls, so I've been there. It gets easier.
In the meantime, try not to be too jealous of those who have chosen to live their life in a manner that doesn't match yours.