While I don't assume to know the answers to your statements, I've heard that the story as seen in Genesis could be explained as what you might observe if you would be floating over the surface of the Earth while all of the creation things were happening around you (like you could see in a vision, as God was showing a bewildered Moses who probably was overwhelmed what had already happened)
Roughly: as the earth cooled and the light of the young sun lit up the new earth that was merrily spinning around the sun, when the skies cleared you might notice that there was a surface (probably molten) and sky, eventually the seas formed and the ground hardened, the skies were overcast so you couldn't see out just yet, Plants would slowly come to cover this young earth, with different types appearing over the years. and as the sky cleared (due to changing atmosphere from all the plants) and you would see the sun, moon and stars clearly then as well.
Gradually fish-like creatures would emerge, some slowly pull themselves out of the waters. Some would fly some would creep upon the earth, and a few of them would eventually walk upright and slowly make the long ascent to mankind.
This is the method that I personally use to explain old-earth creation and even evolution, and still it leave room for there to be a God that has taken a special interest in this planet and nurtured and encouraged it's peoples along the way.