On what planet is men wrongfully being accused of rape an issue even *visible* next to women being raped?
On what planet is it ok to excuse a crime by saying that another crime happens more often?
or bend over backwards to pretend there isn't enough information to have an opinion either way
Unless you're looking at police reports or other data I haven't seen in this thread, there is no reliable information about what happened. That's not pretense, that's fact. In any disputed event, testimony from one of the disputants is not reliable without some sort of physical evidence or corroborating neutral testimony. You talk about items found in Gont's room -- but so far as I've seen we have only Weidman's say-so that those items were found there. Still nothing but she said, he said.
If police or conference organizers confirm the items' presence in Gont's room, then yes, that would be corroborating evidence. Until then, with no knowledge of the character of either party and no reliable evidence, the only rational course is respect skepticism of both account, withholding judgement and remaining open to evidence as it comes in.