Sorry, I guess you deserve a little less ranty reply. You seem to be from Canada, so let me tell you what it's like south of the border, as it were.
What state? That's pretty important to what you're saying, for reasons I'll get into at the end of this post. The short version is you don't need to leave the US to be under the same standards of care that I am.
Again, if you're a transsexual, you're not a crossdresser. Don't think about yourself in those terms, because if you do, you'll never be anything more than a guy in a dress.
To 99% of the population, a post-op transsexual is a man in a dress yet. You'll note I put crossdresser in quotes. There was a reason for that.
In the civilised world, that's absolutely not the reaction that I've seen. And that includes parts of the US.
People will pick up on that self doubt, and they'll look a little deeper.
This is true. If I'm sufficiently tired to not carry on the macho charade, people will think I'm female even when clearly dressed as a boy.
Why put up the charade in the first place, if it makes you feel so uncomfortable? Just be yourself, and if people think you're too femmy, fuck 'em.
And if you can get that paperwork from your psychologist that says you can use the womens' room, then you can quite easily get a driver's licence that identifies you as female.
That's not how it works down here. If I presented the letter from my psychologist, they'd be sure to keep the M on my license. The best way to do it down here is to make sure you're passing 110%, preview your license, and then suggest the worker somehow changed your sex from F to M, and then she'll "correct" it back to F. The system down here is designed to fulfill the self-fulfilling prophecy that transsexual women are "traps" and deceivers.
You really need to check up on some of what's come out of the US in the last little while, then... Last July, there was an edict that came out of the white house requiring that states follow the WPATH SOC. WPATH = World Professional Association for Transgender Health. While the requirements for a D/L may be different from state to state, you can get a passport that identifies you as female with a letter from your doc.
I didn't even need a letter from my psychologist for it, I simply went to the ministry of transport with a letter from my OB/GYN, who happens to be administering the hormones... that same letter was also good enough to get a passport that identifies me as female.
How do I emigrate to your utopia?
Learn French. Get a Master's degree. Or talk to the consulate about possibly applying as a refugee or discriminated class, but expect to be told no if you do that. The reason? I know for a fact that California, New York, Connecticut, New Hampshire, Minnesota, Washington State, Washington DC, Oregon, New Jersey, Michigan, and Pennsylvania all follow the WPATH standards of care with regards to issuing you ID, as do all federal government institutions, including the military. Minnesota even goes beyond the WPATH SOC: you don't need surgery to get a birth certificate that identifies you as female, you just need to go before a judge with two witnesses who say you're female, and they'll issue an order... a friend of mine did that less than a year ago. In other words, you don't need to leave the US to get treated properly.
That's in the WPATH standards of care, which is implemented across most of the US, and *is* implemented everywhere else in the English-speaking world (outside of parts of Africa), as well as all of the EU, most of South America, and most of southeast Asia.
It's been a while since I've tried to be a lawyer about this. Around here, people hate transsexuals. Is WPATH different from Harry Benjamin SOC? I don't believe I've read a SOC that gives a government obligations to honor gender transition.
Perhaps you're living in the wrong part of the country. Or perhaps things have changed in your area and you don't know how... a *lot* has changed in the last 10 years in how transsexuals are viewed by society at large. More and more people understand what a transsexual is, and it is becoming easier for transsexuals to be accepted pretty much everywhere in the world.
Also, you should be aware of what's come out of the White House. Last July, there was a presidential order to the passport office to start issuing passports that identify you as female with a letter from your doc, as per WPATH SOC. July was a pretty good month for LGBT rights in general, actually, with several rule changes coming out of the office of the president.
Behaviour like *you* describe would be seriously illegal in this part of the world, as it would be a violation of my human rights (and was recently read into the constitution as such, yay Canada!).
Transsexuals aren't humans and don't have human rights here. This is a Capitalism, and if an Owner wants you kicked out, the police will kindly escort you out.
Perhaps you need to check with a lawyer on that. Human rights do still exist in the US. And perhaps you're living in the wrong part of the US.
Even in the US, the human rights tribunals have pretty much unanimously agreed that a transsexual has the right to use the bathroom of their preferred gender, as long as they're presenting as such, regardless of what their documentation says.
The Detroit PD released a statement that one should use the bathroom of the gender one is presenting as. My city's PD has not. And I think you know very well that presenting that statement to a judge would not prevent me from being listed on the list of Sex Offender's Registry (or whatever it's called, you know, the pedophile list) if I were caught taking a piss with my dick between my legs by some damn female who suspected something who was peeping over the barrier, even in Detroit.
It wouldn't even get that far if you'd look into getting ID for it, hun. Or looked at moving to a different part of the country if you're really in such a backwards part of the union.
Thank you. Again, how do I emigrate to your paradise?
Well, to be fair, if I were fluent in French or got a master's degree, I'd be able to apply for immigration. I don't know anymore. I just wish I were female so that life could make sense to me. Even if I were a bit of a tomboy who likes computers and sci-fi, I wouldn't be a faggot. Instead I'm stuck with this bullshit because I was born male.
Again, you don't need to leave the US to get proper treatment. Perhaps you just need to move to a different state. Perhaps a lot has changed since you last looked into it, and you don't have to go anywhere.
And in response to your other post, I know many women who are articulate and intelligent. Perhaps you're working in the wrong field. Admittedly I'm working in a very technical field right now, which is dominated by males, but most of the women that I work with have degrees in computer science or related fields. Even at University, however, I took Philosophy/Linguistics, with a minor in Japanese language.... Linguistics is a field that's dominated by females these days, and the overwhelming majority of them are very intelligent and articulate people. I took electives in subjects ranging from astronomy to maths (I was the only arts major in 3rd year honours calculus) to english lit and film studies, and in all of those fields, I met some very intelligent women (there is a reason what should have been a 4-year degree took 6 years). Since graduation, most of my academic work has been in psychology and cognitive science... psych is another field that's dominated by females, and again, is chock full of extremely intelligent and articulate people.
So perhaps you're living in the wrong state *and* working in the wrong field? Or perhaps you do work with some very intelligent and articulate females, but are focusing on the bad? I know I used to focus on what disgusted me about males, and I developped a real hatred of the male of the species that didn't start to go away until about 6 months after I was full time... now I have several male friends, something that I never would have imagined possible. And here's the kicker: some of those male friends are people that I knew from before. Being out to them isn't an option, and they're still very supportive and good friends. People have changed in the last several years.