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Comment Re:August (Score 2, Insightful) 1146

A lot of traditional wisdom is honestly some of the best wisdom. When reading books and whatnot, sure it may often be presented in ways that are dated, but there's still a core of truth to much of it. For example:

1) Never go to bed angry. You might go to bed before you solve the problem, but no matter what it is, no matter how bad it is, you can always find a way to hug your wife, kiss her, and tell her that the two of you will be able to work it out. Going to bed angry breeds resentment.

True True! NEVER go to bed angry! EVER!

2) Find a few minutes to connect with your wife every day. Tell her that you love her in a way that's not just a repeat utterance of the phrase (like some people say "Have a good day," at the end of every transaction at the store). Change the word order, change the inflection, make eye contact, and hold her hand - something to indicate that you mean it and that you're not just saying it because it's supposed to be said.

Take it even further. Every time you walk by her, just touch her ass, or brush up against her gently. Something, anything to keep the physical connection going also.

3) Never say the word divorce. Not even once. It doesn't matter how mad you are, that is a word that once spoken you cannot take it back. It represents a fracture that will never heal.

Not even as a threat! NOT EVER!

4) Agree with each other that when you're having an argument which gets particularly heated, it is ok for either person to walk out of the room, and the argument can just wait until tempers have cooled down a bit. Personally I've always had a really bad temper, and it's only through substantial effort that I have learned to not allow it to control me. But I have a breaking point, and because I'm working so hard at controlling my temper by this point already, I go from seemingly relatively calm to white hot don't-later-remember-what-happened rage within a few seconds. When I fear I'm approaching that point, I walk away, and my wife lets me go. This is much harder than it seems, because both people are probably very angry, hurt, and frustrated at this point, and it's hard to set that aside for the moment. When you resume the discussion later (usually not very long, just long enough to cool off some), cooler heads almost always make it much smoother. DO NOT use this as a way to avoid an argument - this is meant to protect your marriage; abusing it is a form of dishonesty, and will cripple its ability to act as a safety valve. When you get to that point, the things you say can be so hurtful that they remain long after the original trifle that the argument was about is forgotten. When you walk out on the argument, you must always return to it, and it really should be the person who walked out who initiates the return.

Truer words have never been spoken! If you feel it's getting that bad, walk away! Things will be said that you can never take back and that will sit and ferment until it turns rancid and there is no fixing it! There will ALWAYS be fights. If you never fight, then there is something wrong!

5) Always put your wife first. Her interests always trump yours, just as they would when you're dating. That might sound like an unbalanced relationship, but when it's reciprocal the decision process is each person advocating for the other. It tends to cause much more level-headed discussions, and it reinforces the strength of your bond because you feel as if your spouse genuinely cares about what's best for you (and you're right about that). Women are much more likely than men to do this naturally, so you may have to work at it. Sometimes you don't get to do what you wanted to do, but if it's actually important to you, then she'll see and understand that and will advocate it for you. Often you'll later discover that it wasn't nearly as important to you as you thought it was at the time.

Here Here! The more you give, the more you get back! i.e. This morning I got a hummer for no reason, without even having to ask!

Being a geek and being married for 11 years now, the last 5 of them working from home, the main thing is communication and never taking each other for granted. Remember to give each other space when needed.

And for God's sake, stop reading all the damn books! They will do nothing but confuse the hell out of you if not scare the crap out of you with statistics! When my wife went back to school for her psychology major, she was bombarded with statistical information about how marriages didn't last and the such, which sent her on a downward spiral saying all the "statistics" show we weren't going to last! It took me forever to convince her that the statistics, regarding relationships at least, rarely if ever talk about the minority of couples that do make it work!

Good luck and just remember to always be yourself! Don't let anyone or anything change who you are!

Comment Scare tactics 101 (Score 1) 1016

Maybe someone here can explain this statement in the article because I just don't get it!

"Piracy, counterfeiting and other intellectual property rights violations not only cost U.S. businesses jobs and billions of dollars a year in lost revenue, they can also pose significant health and safety risks to consumers."

"significant health and safety risks to consumers"??? You've gotta be frikin' kidding me!

Comment Re:Digital Changed The Game (Score 1) 289

Um. are you forgetting everything that was recorded off the radio?

I'm scared of what's coming next if we don't stand up! Technically, all cover bands are breaking copyright law by playing songs in public for $$. Shit, the a-holes shut down my video on Youtube of me playing along to a RUSH song! You can clearly hear me over the song, mistakes and all!

So what's next? All music having to be funneled though 1 entity to ensure copyright protection? All live performances have to be ok'd through the RIAA and are vigorously monitored so no copyright infringement takes place? Am I going to get a subpoena for practicing RUSH songs in my garage because the whole neighborhood can hear?

Now don't get me wrong, I am not for ripping entire albums in the highest/best format available and spreading it to the world. But I do like the idea of being able to hear all the songs on an album to see if it's worth buying the whole thing. "Back in the day", you had to hope that you could find a friend that already purchased the whole album/tape. Now-a-days, I'll be damned if I am going to pay $20 for a CD with 1 good song that it takes the fools pennies to make!

But it's like I asked in my original post, "What the hell ever happened to making music for the pure joy of it? Oh that's right, greed!"

Comment Re:Back in my day.... (Score 4, Insightful) 289

Here! Here! Also living through the 70's, 80's AND 90's when this was all the norm! Even recording TV shows on your VCR to loan to a friend who missed that episode of Dallas! HAHAHAHA!

The only reason I can figure is mainly because most of the "mainstream" music that has been coming out sucks horribly! So the recording industry had to figure out a way to make up for lost revenue seeing they couldn't figure out a better business model or find/make better bands!

Lets not forget the whining of Lars Ulrich http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fS6udST6lbE that really started all this mess! And now he see's his mistake and downloads his own music off the internet! http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lars_Ulrich

You also never really hear of the actual BANDS out there complaining about file sharing. They know the truth that the more people that get a taste, the more they will actually go out and buy the whole album/cd/what ever, the more people that will come out to see them live! I can't tell you how many albums I bought when I was younger after hearing a song on a "mix tape" at a party or something!

Which brings me to another thought. What the hell ever happened to making music for the pure joy of it? Oh that's right, greed!

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