Do I deserve the label of "Transphobe" - a term I've never seen or thought about before? Like many others, this intriguing tangential comment thread is the first window I've had to an unusual new world of personal sensitivity, yet another way I could accidentally offend someone I don't personally know with my assumptions about the world.
Every time I talk about my friends, parents, pets in casual conversation with a new acquaintance, I know there's a small chance that they might have suffered though the death of same, and that I'm unintentionally torturing them. Do I stop doing it to everyone new "just in case"? No. I'd be a ball of nerves otherwise, trying to remember every single thing I could say that people might get upset about, some of which contradict each other.
So I guess what I'm saying is that I might deserve your label. I don't have the intention to offend, but I've made a decision to continue living in happy ignorance, and not to invest a lot of my time and effort into making certain changes that would presumably benefit you if we ever happened to chitchat in a shop, or something. I can only apologise, and offer what I think the silent majority, the kindly but blundering everyman thinks about it all.