Sadly we have had educators claiming what "you" want is all that matters, to the detriment of millions of students.
I don't blame the instructors for that. I blame the parents. If parents don't expect their children to behave, the children will have no expectations to follow. I grew up in a household that children were expect to be seen than heard or else the belt came out. Teachers always marveled how quiet and polite I was.
Parents aren't allowed to use the belt anymore unless they want to do a lot of time in the county jail.
Kids nowadays are allowed to make their own rules and learn from a swath of mistakes that hit them in waves. When the wave passes, they feel invincible again; repeat.