I only pointed out the fact that unemployed men do less work around the house than their working spouses because of attempts to portray women as doing the same amount of work overall, if you consider both paid and unpaid work (which was a false assumption).
Depression definitely comes into play, and women generally realize that mens egos are fragile things, in part because they're "not allowed to be" fragile. It's one of those conundrums of society, where having to keep up the appearance of power and strength actually weakens men, and women, being "allowed" to be seen as weaker, can actually be more honest and open in dealing with certain problems. It's why men don't want to talk about things, and women do. "Talking about" a problem leads to the possibility of being seen as weaker. Women can "afford" it, men less so. Ultimately, we all pay the price.
Now, as to the quality of housework, yes, it's easier to just give up on trying to get the guy to do it right, because who wants to be seen as a nag? And yet, guys manage to get the latrines spotless in the military ... and they can spend all afternoon washing, waxing, and detailing a car. Part of it is motivation. Guys don't see "the nest" the same way, I guess.
This same difference is also expressed in fashion. Guys wear the same basic outfit to work every day of the week. If two programmers show up with the same grungy dead metal band t-shirt, it's "Hey, Dude! Awesome!" If 5 of them do, it's high 5's all around.
Contrast that to two women showing up with the same outfit ... it's ... awkward.
And unlike guys, if a woman shows up wearing the same basic outfit day in, day out, even the men will notice and comment on it. "What's wrong with her?" So now you know why we need more closet space. And more shoes. And jackets and coats and hats.
This same attention to "extraneous" detail comes into play, not just for housework and clothing, but in a lot of areas.
It might also be why men simply don't take many of the sexual harassment scenarios all that seriously. "In one ear, out the other ..." In this discussion it was brushed off as "it's even more under-reported by men." How many men have been groped by a stranger in the subway? How many men have had someone they don't even know grab them and try to shove their tongue down their throats in broad daylight? Not too many. And yet, try to find a woman who hasn't experienced that sort of stupidity, or worse. Good luck with your search. There are definite inequalities.
This doesn't mean that all men are jerks or all women are saints. Just that the realities of differences in physical strength, levels of aggression, and the concommittent responses (women mostly just want to get away and get somewhere safe, whereas men subject to the same treatment are more likely to want to fight) are also facts.
Same with inequality of employment. Being paid considerably less than the people you're leading based on your gender is just one example. Others include differences in consensus-seeking, etc.
As for men who think that women are gold-diggers because some women, when they finally get fed up with not being treated equally, end up with someone with more money. Are they gold-diggers, or is it just part of the odds - in any re-distribution some will end up with someone who makes more money, some will end up with someone who makes less ...? Maybe the ones whose ex-spouses end up better off financially are using this as a salve for their egos, the same as the ones whose ex-spouses end up worse off financially are going around saying "ha! look where she is now!" I've seen both (guys, if there's one thing a woman doesn't want to hear, it's how rotten your ex was ... over and over and over and over and over. If it's over, please, get over it, hmmm???)
Now, the whole trying to equate orgasm frequency with wealth and arguing that that "proves" women are biologically attracted to money is ridiculous, as well as insulting and degrading. It could more easily be argued that men who are richer must be better in bed ... but the relationship between the two variables is a lot more complicated, as I pointed out.
BTW - I had a rule for my daughters and their messy rooms - you can have it as messy as you want - just you're not allowed any food in your rooms because I don't want bugs. If you can't find something because of the mess, it's your problem, not mine.
It works, because eventually they get so angry at themselves for not being able to find anything that they pretty much turn into neat freaks, but it doesn't happen overnight. You can't "pour that knowledge" into their head - they have to realize it on their own.
Good luck on your job hunt.