Comment Re:It's like this. (Score 1) 878
No. It isn't all three. Here is another way to think about it : punctuation and spelling work on the written word. Tone and pitch apply to the spoken word. Grammar applies to the speech as well as literature because it has deeper connection to language.
Here is another way to think about it: grammar is syntax .
Punctuation exists to make that syntax more readable. Spelling exists to make vocabulary standardized. They are embellishments (in a linguistic sense), and grammar is the essence. The use of the symbols of punctuation and spelling for example , is rather variable in a language family - the Indo-European for example. Grammar, however, is not as variable. The elements of Indo-European grammar are common as far back as Panini.
If the subtleties are still lost on you, it is beyond my capacity to explain. The Wikipedia article provides a bunch of references that may be useful if you are interested.