Journal zedmelon's Journal: OMG SHUT UP! 11
Zed Junior, who is 23 months old, saw her and said "EYE!." He's not capable of producing many sentences beyond two or three words yet, and for more than one, it's got to be a more familiar subject. In an attempt to redirect, Zedette looked down at the packet of birthday cards in Junior's hand and said, "Yes, that's Shrek's eye."
I wasn't looking directly at my son, but peripheral vision told me he was watching where the cart was going, not his hands; I'm 99.3% certain he was not looking at the card when he said that. Of course, the girl ignored it (hopefully didn't hear it, but that's also very doubtful given Junior's vocal volume).
This is partially a rant, but more of a cry for help and advice (rdewald, if you've had kids at this age, I'm eager to feel your wisdom here)
- Parents: What should I do? I'm a first-time dad. I've anticipated many scenarios, formulated a plan for some of them, but I'm lost here. What do you tell someone who doesn't grasp the concepts of sensitivity and discretion and won't for some time? Especially when you generally encourage that someone to absorb all he can from his surroundings and develop his ability to express what he thinks? What sort of things/distractions/prevention/etc have worked for you veterans out there?
- My impression is that people who have visible differences generally would like to be treated normally, but I have no firsthand experience, so I might be wrong. Is ignoring such bursts of observation appropriate? Is an apology the best approach? I'm a pretty discipline-oriented dad, and I don't tolerate public tantrums, but this isn't something I can tell him is wrong (at least not this young), and I'm not even sure it *is* wrong, aside from the discomfort on the part of the girl whose eye he noticed. What sort of response intrudes the least?
How I do it (Score:2)
When my daughter (the elder, 'cause the younger ain't talkin' yet) notices "different" people, I quietly acknowledge her observation. That's all. No need to explain or apologize.
If it's in a situation like yours, when t
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OMG SHUT UP (Score:1)
We're talking guffaws here. ow. you suck. My cheeks hurt.
Re:How I do it (Score:1)
commit the gaffe of using the somewhat derogatory term of "lazy eye," which I assume was your greatest concern.
Re:How I do it (Score:1)
You've grown out of it?!? Can you share your secrets? :-)
And for the record, I'm poking at myself, not you. I've gotten over most of the wimpy crybaby, but I'm still very bossy and occasionally (or more frequently, depending whether you ask my wife) dorky.
Re:How I do it (Score:1)
At seven, I was still convinced that my Grandma was right. Ergo, I was a genius, had the best ideas in the world, and much like the portayal of Mozart in Amadeus, I couldn't comprehend why anyone could even begin to see it another way. Too many notes.
By the time I got to older schools, I was already in the habit of defending my thoughts before anyone challen
No kids, but I've been a freak (Score:2)
Ms. Lazy Eye probably heard Zed Jr and despite Zeddette's skillful misdirection, she probably suspected the comment was directed at her. My reactions in the context have run the gamut. I have left restaurants in tears (without eating) because children have commented on my appearanc
Re:No kids, but I've been a freak (Score:2)
Yes, Richard, a personal apology would be in order. At the very least. My child should be subjected to at least as much embarassment and discomfort as she causes someone else. That's just inexcusable.
But I would be absolutely shocked if a child of mine said anything intentionally der
Re:No kids, but I've been a freak (Score:2)
Re:No kids, but I've been a freak (Score:1)
or you can ... (Score:2)
Benign neglect. It works.
It also allows the target of the comment to not respond, because you didn't, and we can now all behave like adults and act like it was of no consequence - which, in a perfect world, it isn't.
Also, by not respondin