L0stb0Y's Journal: Modern axis mundi: vampire slayer stake in the heart...

It is amazing how quickly things can change...watching my new bride go from a wedding gown to a hospital gown has been really tough...it was hard to finally make the plunge and get married...lord knows she waited long enough...but two weeks into the 'wedded-bliss' she is diagnosed with Acute leukemia...for the past four weeks I've slept in a chair in the hospital...it is truly pathetic that slashdot seems to be my main source of distraction from this whole situation, in the long hours of the night...she's sleeping now, as she often does after a fresh dose of chemotherapy. Sometimes life is hard. I've never wanted a perfect understanding of things, I just want to be happy. I've never hated my sysadmin job more than the night a major server went down, and I had to go into the office while my new wife sat in the bed, watching her hair falling out and crying. Sometimes life is hard.

LosT

Man

[ObviousGuy]

Hang in there.

Re:Man

[L0stb0Y]

Trying. I really do feel supported by more than myself these days. We are going on 35+ days here in the hospital...and for the first time in my life I actually feel like I fit the 'geek' stereotype of a lack of personal hygene (not having been home to shower but a few times in the past month-) Leaving to do something as simple as shower is difficult, usually making me feel guilty, because *SHE* can't leave to shower...I never thought I'd see the day that showering really was/is a luxury.

I also find the

Re:Man

[innerlimit]

Same here...

Be strong

[Masa]

I'm sorry to hear your situation. I'm living currently in quite a similar situation.

I know that this will be extremely hard time for you now, but try to be strong. And try to take care of your own health. It's important, because you have to be strong and support your wife. She will need you badly.

Be strong, man. I'll hope best for you and your wife.

taking care

[tverbeek]

Please ignore the dork who responded to your comment in the "geeky weeding" discussion by lecturing you not to leave your wife's side. You have to. Not just to keep your job (which is important) but to keep your sanity. I say this both from personal experience (not the same as your situation, but similar in many ways... you can read all about it here [toddverbeek.com] if you're interested) and from the advice of professional counselors. You have to take care of yourself. In fact, you have to take care of yourself first,

Keep your chin-up

[mzs]

My wife has an aunt whose husband is in a lengthy battle with cancer. All I can say is I hope that your wife gets well soon and that you need to look out for yourself as well as her too. You are doing the right thing, watch-out for her and for yourself.

But about the job, if you are in the USA there is a law, family medical leave act I believe. It gives six months of unpaid leave to anyone whose wife is in a situation like yours with a guarantee that your employer take you back in a comparable position afte

Stick with it

[lindsayt]

Hey man, I'm sorry about the way life can be f*cked up some times. Obviously I can't presume to be able to wrap up all your loose ends and make it all better; but I'm sure your wife will be most at ease if she knows you're taking care of yourself too. Spend lots of time with her - she needs you - but also be sure to breathe lots of fresh air and keep perspective on the rest of the world too, if just for a little bit each day. There will come a time when you go back out, hopefully with your wife, and you

It's not a popular thing to do around here, but...

[VelvetHelmet]

I just said a prayer for your wife and for you.