Chicks_Hate_Me's Journal: Rejected

I was so hyped up this morning, I walked to work getting all sweaty, hot and bothered. I had my Zaurus ready for attack, this morning I was going to ask for Coffee Girl's digits. So I went to the coffee shop and got my normal Caramel Mocha and I started talking to her, she talked about all the hours she works and she brought up taking care of her two kids. I asked her if she was married, I don't know if she heard me or not but she didn't reply. I asked her what else she does other than work, she talked about dancing at some place that I never heard of. I finally brought up the forbidden question, "so, do you want to go out sometime?" She then told me about going through her divorce (game over dude!) ...rejected. She told me I should come to the dance place and then she asked me a terrible question, "you're over 21 right?" I didn't even hesitate, I said no, I didn't want to lie. "Well, how old are you?" "19," I replied. "You're too young!" I didn't know if she meant to go to the dance hall (unlikely) or too young to go out with her.

I knew what this meant, and I wasn't pissed, I understood. "Too young" meaning not financially secure, and with her situation this wasn't a problem. If you were single, working 70 hours a week, you wouldn't want a boyfriend that makes less than you. If it wasn't for her sake, it was for her kid's sake.

I don't feel rejected, I had the guts to ask a beautiful girl out, and didn't bitch and moan when she turned me down. I wasn't that nervous and for this I'm grateful, I'm getting better as time goes on. Although I do feel down, but oh well, if this is rejection, rejection isn't that bad.

Re:Women can sense desperation

[Chicks_Hate_Me]

I agree that women can sense desperation, but so can men. The thing is, how was I desperate? I didn't go, "please please go out with me!!!" I just casually asked if she ever wanted to do something, and after that I left her alone. If I was desperate, I would of kept on bothering her.