Every morning you walk out to your front lawn to pick up the newspaper. And every morning the neighbors on each side of you physically assault you.
For as long as you can remember, you've lived in a house with a particular set of neighbors on either side of you. And ever since you moved there, your neighbor to the right, let's call him Mr. Right, would give you a bloody nose.
In talking with him about it, he argued that it was justified to keep the neighborhood in order. Mr. Left OTOH took your side and thought that that was complete bullshit.
But some many years back Mr. Left had started accosting you as well. Every morning he'd slap you in the face, box your ears, and kick you in the shins. And he added things over time, like nipple twists and indian burns and wet willys, and then later added foot stompings and hair pulling and nose tweaking.
In talking with him about it, he argued that it was justified to keep the neighborhood in order. Mr. Right OTOH took your side and thought that that was complete bullshit.
So in summary, nowadays every morning you are assaulted in ten different ways.
Many of Mr. Left's assaults are kind of silly, but can be somewhat painful nonetheless.
Mr. Right's assault is definitely painful, and a big pain afterwards in that you have to spend some time stopping the bleeding each time.
So, which is worse to you? That depends on if you're more like Mr. Right or Mr. Left.
If you're more like Mr. Left, then:
1) Mr. Right is worse because it's more severe to you, and
2) It's actually far worse to you because you have an ingrained, noticeably skewed sense of proportion anyway.
If you're more like Mr. Right, then:
1) Mr. Left is worse to you because he comes at you with 9 times the assaults, and
2) It's actually far worse to you because he's actually continuing to add more and more assaults to the daily barrage, with no end in sight, and
0) You're wondering, in the first place, do you really even need to be assaulted that much, period, for there to be some minimal level of order maintained in the neighborhood.