Journal Liora's Journal: No need to worry, I'm now single... 9
I just thought I would take (another) moment and say that you all gave the greatest advice... I did not do the time apart thing. I talked to my mom, and she asked me a few well-formulated questions, and I concluded I needed to break up with him based upon my answers.
So, as suggested, I broke up with him, cleanly and immediately. I did it over the phone (yes, bad form, I know, but I knew that in person he'd talk me out of it, and then I'd just have to do it again later). I went down the checklist as suggested 1. breaking up, 2. why, 3. he will find someone else 4. goodbye. Yeah, that's what I did.
Well, I'm a little down, and I called him last night although I probably shouldn't have, but we didn't get back together from it, and hopefully my calculus book is returned and sitting on my front porch (school started today... I am taking the 3D calc class and it uses the same book as the last one...). Thanks a bunch. I shall write personal thank yous later, but I have to get some work done this morning.
Bad Times... (Score:1)
Take a bath for at least 30-60 minutes (even if you arne't a bath person. If you really hate them, take a looong shower). This is time by yourself. Cry if you have to. Think, and let go of your emotions. You'll feel better afterward.
Once you've had some time by yourself, go out with your friends to something relaxing, like to dinner (not something that takes a lot of energy like dancing). Don't drink. Stay off the juice for a little bit. Drinking while down == bad news.
We're always around, so feel free to drop a journal entry if you need a pickmeup (or email one of us).
Geez, now I know why I'm viewed as a 'father-figure'... heh. Anyway, I hope you start feelin better, and give us a hollar if you have time.
Feel Better? (Score:2)
You're braver than I (Score:1)
(Hopefully) the hardest part is already done.
Good Thinking! (Score:2)
Re:Good Thinking! (Score:1)
Nope. I have to disagree there. Surely if you've ever felt for someone enough to start a relationship, you should at least have the decency to break up in person. Imagine how it would feel if you were the one on the receiving end. Your partner has decided that they no longer want to be with you. Sad, but it happens. But when they don't even have the decency to tell you to your face? That to me would come across as rubbing salt in the wounds, and would cause significantly more hurt. Just MHO.
good luck! (Score:2)
Congratulations (Score:2)
good call. (Score:2)
Anyway, good luck.
PHEW!! (Score:1)