Well, (1 and 2) are specific to your situation, not most people's situations. (3) is more a "by definition" thing - if you can't trust the car to find a spot to park in an ordinary lot somewhere and not hit any people or other cars in doing so, it's not really a smart enough vehicle to be considered fully automated. (4) is possible to deal with, it's not the same as public transit because people using your car as a taxi are not anonymous. Also, it could make a stop at a cleaning place before returning to you once it's near time to pick you up for the day.
As for the cost of $3k worth of electronics, no, you're the one misunderstanding auto manufacturer costs. TLDR, they only make 10-15% profit, not 300%. So why does your van's option cost 3k when it's $500 worth of electronics? The reason is both the cost of labor and integration and the bigger factor is you ARE getting shafted on that option. That doesn't mean that if the base cost of the bare van were 25k, that it actually costs only 7500 worth of metal and machining to build the van. It's probably $21000 for the machining and labor and everything else.
Capitalism doesn't work that way in a competitive market, in a competitive market the prices of things tends to drop to the actual total cost + the cost of capital. The "profit" that Toyota earns is mainly a fee for the billions of dollars of capital that Toyota has to have in order to operate.
So no, I'd expect that if the electronics were 3k, it would add 4k to what's call the marginal cost for the manufacturer. Now, the manufacturer also has to somehow divvie up a multi-billion dollar tab for developing autonomy among the vehicles it sells. Maybe the early ones will add $10k or $30k to the cost. The manufacturer also has to set aside money for every autonomous vehicle to fund the insurance policies.
In fact, being realistic here, the manufacturers might be forced to charge a subscription fee for autonomy. The fee would pay for the manufacturer to continue fixing bugs and fine tuning the software for autonomy (and updating the maps it uses), and also would pay for an insurance policy the manufacturer would have to have to pay for the damages caused when it screws up. *
* Obviously the only way the economics of this would work out is if the fee + regular car insurance was less than you pay now for car insurance, which is possible.