One of the greatest foundations of economic stability in the US is actually the ability of normal people to actually buy and own land by obtaining a mortgage. Land and a house on it gives individuals security as well as an investment that they can use to improve their lot in life. There's nothing "crazy" about being able to have a 30-year mortgage if you go into it with the full intention and ability to pay it off. It sounds like a long time, but even before you pay it off, it is the basis for all sorts of buying power that you can use to do other things, and I am not talking about credit cards or loans for Plasma TVs, I mean the ability to borrow to do things like open a business, for instance.
And you *can* pay it off, and people who do so actually own something that is theirs free and clear that they could never have considered having as theirs in one lump payment.
Now, yes, if he cannot afford a house, he shouldn't have bought it, but I assume that he actually can afford it, *unless* he decides to go discover himself. And to be fair, more power to him if he has his affairs in order. There is no need to own "things" to be happy in life, but he damn well better look out for his family first. He has an obligation to them to help keep those kids safe and make sure his spouse is not doing everything herself.
I once came across a guy who decided that he was going to up and leave his job because he didn't like it, but he made this decision right after his wife had been laid off and while he had two young kids. Beside the fact that his wife had no job, it was clear that he expected her to go get a well paying job to support his lazy ass while he "found himself". I'm not saying this guy is like that, but I sincerely hope he understands that other people are affected by his decisions.
Being a developer can be a grind, but it's far from the worst job in the world, especially if you have decided to simply sit back, do what you are told and not get bent out of shape when you have to deal with morons. You smile, shrug, and do what you are told and spend not a single minute in the office longer than you have to. If you play it right, it can almost be country club-like. You won't get ahead that way, but by easing off a notch or two, you can turn your previously horrible job into something almost nice.