Your whole argument is a ridiculous strawman.
No, it's not. It's a simplification, listing only the two extremes, to make a point. And, by implication, it only applies after the cop has decided to draw his gun because until he's done, he's not threatening to use deadly force. As long as that gun isn't drawn, you both have a large number of options, but once it's out, refusing to comply because you're sure you're in the right can easily get you killed. And, btw, since you're talking about strawmen, listing all of the things the officer could have done instead of threatening to kill you is irrelevant, because if he'd chosen one of them he wouldn't have his gun out.