On your phone or computer or with your smart devices can be found. The promise not to share may be heartfelt at the time it's given but does not actually prevent sharing by someone else or when loyalties fade.
Don't compromise your values to satisfy others, peers, employers, significant others. Be willing to evaluate your position but always act in accord with what you know to be true.
The value of your contribution does not stem from your gender. Hard work and consistent effort will be your guideposts to success.
You can learn to do anything.