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Life is both simple and complicated. it is simple in that it is easiest done in the simplest terms. If you don't like your job: change it. Don't like your career field: change it. Don't like your relationship: change it. Simple. Or at least it would be if change were that simple. Unfortunately you have people dependant on you, some of whom are still very young, and their needs have to come first. You can, afterall, only raise a child once. Complicated. Relationships can entangle you, too. And, es

I was reading this post when I happened to notice this random quote at the bottom:

And if you wonder, What I am doing, As I am heading for the sink. I am spitting out all the bitterness, Along with half of my last drink.

I found *that* pretty hilarious!

My only two cents to add is that I've had far too many times in my life, looking back, when I've realized that I spent a lot of my time fearing the worst or dwelling on the tiny part I'd lost instead of the larger part I was basically soaking in for any given

I think the kind of negativity you describe comes about as a defense. Cringing before the blow, If you see it coming it won't hurt as much. But it's counter adaptive.

Emotions are valuable tools, they prime the body and mind and help make quick decisions. It's never good to ignore or suppress a feeling. But you can acknowledge it and move on. Your feelings aren't who you are, and if you honestly look at a feeling and choose not to act or dwell on it, that doesn't mean you are being untrue to your feeling.

It'

We treat each day as a gift, because we should have died so many times before, so it's all gravy.

People spend way too much time worrying about stuff they can't change, and ignore the things they can and want to change.

We used to have a guy here who was terribly negative. He started out really happy, but then (a long time ago) we got a boss who was a world-class ass.

It really soured him.

I suppose he also (thought he) had family problems - his wife was spending money foolishly.

I suppose his negativity was a bit of a comfort to him, in that at least he cared about how he was feeling. He was feeling like crap, and no-one else was stepping up to change things. Then his two year old daughter drowned in a bathtub. Now, he h